Thursday, October 27, 2011

The great debate of working verses staying at home

Though times have changed and we have gotten out of the 1950's mindset that women can only be housewives, and cater to their husbands and stay at home to take care of the kiddies; there is still judgment made when women make the decision to of whether to be a working mom or a stay at home mom. I've struggled with this concept for quite some time, even before I became pregnant. It's one of the hardest decision for a mother to make. And the more I talk about it with other people and see the look on their faces when I tell them I'm probably going to continue working and have my baby in daycare, the more I'm starting to realize it's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't kind of situations. If I told people I was going to be a stay at home mom, I probably still would get judged, and be seen as a lazy person who isn't help providing for the family financially. Or that being a stay at home mom is a cakewalk and that they have the life doing nothing and taking care of a baby.(Not that I think this of stay at home moms, but sadly people think this way of women who make the decisions to be a stay at home mom)As for the working mom the judgments that some people have is that they are selfish wanting to pursue their careers, and don't want to spend time with their child.

So regardless of what decision I make there will be some kind of scrutiny from someone, and some kind of judgmental look made. I like to hope one day this mentality will go away, and women can freely raise their children the way they see fit without being put another a microscope of judgment.But I won't hold my breath on it, because I'm sure many of things I do as a mother in the future will be judged by others. Because everyone has their own idea of what is the "right" way to take care of a child and if that "right" way isn't their way, then you're doing it the wrong way.

At least I know my decision is the best for me, and while it will be very hard to juggle work, motherhood and being a wife, I know it's possible, for many women have done it.

1 comment:

  1. unfortunately there are always going to be people like that...but at the end of the day you have to do what's best for you. I'm going to be returning to work after my mat. leave...financially being a stay at home mom just isn't in the cards for us, at least not now.